If youâve learned to do one thing well, you can apply that technique to anything else you want to do.
Abstraction, by Carol L. Douglas. My hair looks a lot like this. |
Those who know me will be surprised to learn that I occasionally brush my hair. I like it long, but it has more than a little âfro in it, which makes it hard to maintain. Earlier this year I went to a new hairdresser. Kim spent a great deal of time teaching me how to shape my hair without a hairdryer. When she was done, I looked smashingâuntil the next day, when it was back to its usual, out-of-control, self.
My first reaction was to just let it go, even though I hate it looking like a bottle brush. âBut wait,â I thought. âIf Kim could make this work, it means itâs possible. She showed me how; what I have to do is practice.â And so, I practiced. And while Iâm still not as good at it as she is, somedays it doesnât look half bad.
My friend Jane, by Carol L. Douglas. She’s taught me a lot of things over the years. |
I see a physical therapist twice a week to work on my back. Sheâs very young, and sheâs very tough. Every visit, she adds something new, kinky (in the pretzel sense) and too complex for me. âNow, remember to breathe,â she admonishes after sheâs just given me eighteen other orders. I canât seem to activate my back, contort my extremities, and draw air all at the same time. Every week, I leave feeling confused.
Yet I go home and try again, because I promised her that Iâd practice three times a week. The first time is always awkward and messy. By the time I go back to my next appointment, though, Iâve got it more or less mastered. Three months ago, Krista told me, âAge is just a number.â I laughed; sheâs my youngest daughterâs age. Now Iâm starting to believe her. The improvement has been life-changing.
Listening in church, by Carol L. Douglas. Part of learning to paint is incessant drawing. |
By the time weâre adults, weâve all pretty well mastered somethingâ CrĂȘpes Suzette, tax preparation, Greek diacritics, Morris dancing⊠the list is as infinite and varied as humans ourselves. Here are some things Iâve mastered:
- Making pies;
- Cleaning;
- Numerical computations in my head;
- Driving;
- Folding laundry.
What about you? What are you good at?
For most people, itâs easier to enumerate our shortcomings than our successes, but thatâs a mistake, as I wrote here. I certainly have things Iâm not good at, starting with cookery. But Iâm a bad cook because I have absolutely no interest in food.
Thatâs the first difference between success and failure: we succeed at what we love; we fail at what we dislike. âYou could do it if you just tried,â I heard as a kid, and now I know it was true. Our failures represent disinterest far more than incompetence.
Bailiff in County Court, by Carol L. Douglas. Draw, draw, everywhere, even in court. |
Thinking about our masteries is not a feel-good exercise; itâs an invitation to look at our learning process and figure out how it worked. I made my first pies in 4H. I found better recipes and techniques, other bakers gave me tips, and Iâm still looking for ways to up my game.
Itâs exactly the same with more complex activities like art, music and higher mathematics. Your successes determine the method youâll use to keep developing. Other masteries not only tell you that you have the intellectual tools necessary to take on the challenge, but that you have a method of learning that works.
Notice that Iâve not said a word about talent here. Itâs the most overrated quality in success. Thomas Edison was entirely right when he said, âGenius is one percent inspiration, ninety-nine percent perspiration.â Now get to work!